Saturday, February 14, 2015

A frustrating day, but a rational response

Today has been frustrating. I bought a utility cabinet to assemble, only to discover it was missing a piece. OK, I thought, no need to become upset over this. I'll do something else. So I decided to complete my taxes. After gathering my paperwork, I realized I was missing one of my documents. I tried to go online to access it, only to find the Internet was down.

Argh.

When we're stressed, we grow tense, and when we become tense, we often become anxious. The muscles across my chest were tight. My mind was racing. And I was not in the best of moods.

Before my Recovery training, I wouldn't have recognized that I was in jeopardy of my emotions getting out of control. I would have brewed, boiled, and found myself anxious. Everything would have irritated me. Obsessions would return. It would not be a good day.

Instead, I've spotted what's going on. This situation is frustrating but not dangerous. Frustrations like this occur throughout everyone's day. I can take rational steps to deal with these frustrations: I'll call the store and ask if I have to return the entire cabinet or if I can just pick up the missing piece. I'll gather what paperwork I have for my taxes, and wait for the rest to arrive by mail. I'll find something else to do while the Internet is down, such as writing this blog.

I'm disappointed my day didn't work out as planned, but that's no reason to let anxiety and anger rule my day.

9 comments:

Pete said...

I can relate to the frustration and the strategies for keeping things together. On a separate note, I wanted to ask you if you have any thoughts about an Anxiety Playlist - music to listen to when you're anxious. Maybe you've posted on this already?

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Bonnie said...

I have also found that it's really important to recognize anxiety triggers at their earliest possible stages. It's so much easier to avert a full-blown episode of panic if you see the warning signs.

Ca Ching! said...

Hi! I am in Australia and have just read your blog. I suffer from anxiety myself and am learning to manage it myself, I love the fact you are not looking for perfect outcomes but reflecting on how much better you are managing your anxiety. A useful strategy for anyone who suffers from anxiety. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Lauren M said...

I am new to your blog, but I have to say its one of the best anxiety blogs I've read, your such a good writer also!

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